And not only this, but we also exult in our tribulations, knowing that tribulation brings about perseverance; and perseverance, proven character; and proven character, hope; and hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out within our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us. For while we were still helpless, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly. (Rom 5:3-6)
Let not those who hope in you be put to shame through me, O Lord GOD of hosts; let not those who seek you be brought to dishonor through me, O God of Israel. (Psalm 69:6)
Friday, January 25, 2013
BIBLICAL ORDER IN MARRIAGE: THE TWO BECOMING ONE FLESH pat 3
BIBLICAL ORDER IN MARRIAGE: THE TWO BECOMING ONE FLESH pt 3
Recently I presented a paper in my DMin class on what the Bible teaches about order in the marriage partnership. This paper sought to define terms, exposit pertinent scriptures, and provide practical application. It also sought to make the reader aware of how some well intended Christian teachers have complicated the issue. Thus, in a hopes that what I have found and written will benefit you,I am presenting this paper over the next several posts. Should you have questions or comments, you may send them to Perseveringpastor@gmail.com.
While Genesis 2 gives us a keen insight as to how life is supposed to be in its natural state, Genesis 3 shares with us the roots and effects of sin corrupting everything we have ever known. “The West’s Judeo-Christian heritage and foundation have largely been supplanted by a libertarian ideology that elevates human freedom and self-determination as the supreme principals for human relationships.”[i] This is precisely what we find when Eve chooses to take the fruit and eat: that she herself would become independent from God. “The fall witnesses a complete reversal of the roles assigned by God to the man and the woman.”[ii]
After the fall, and as a result of the fall Adam, tries to hide from God only to hear Him calling. It can be understood by the dialog of Genesis 3 that God held Adam responsible for his wife’s failure to comply with God’s explicit desires. Adam, in shifting blame from himself to the more authoritative party blames God for the woman he was given. Had Eve been the head of the household, Adam would have simply blamed her. As it stands and the language insinuates, Adam blames God for giving him an insubordinate helper. Adam dismisses culpability by blaming Eve and God; in his eyes he is just the man caught in the middle. Yet Adam’s excuses are not valid. “Thus the man, by his absence, or acquiescence shares in the woman’s culpability; and she, by failing to consult with her God-given protector and provider, fails to respect the divine pattern of marriage.”[iii]
Sin resulted in the order of the home being challenged. This is counterpart to Satan’s challenge to Eve regarding the order that God has created in both the world and in marriage. We read in Genesis 3 how Satan is cursed, and that God would redeem not only man but creation through His Son. Though Satan tried to destroy Eve, she would in turn, by seed, see that One would be born who would restore God’s order.
Childbirth for Eve and all women would become much more difficult. This is possibly an indication that raising children would become more complicated by this disorder. She also would reap the effects of disrupting the order of the home as seen in the statement; “Yet your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.”(Gen 3:16) No longer would this marriage be a tidy complementary union; it now would face the adversity of competing wills.
For Adam, his ability to provide and protect were now made much more difficult. Work is a good thing, and was a part of pre-fall man. But now thorns, thistles, and rocks would be the bane of his existence. His labor would one day be rewarded with death.
For both Adam and Eve, the fall took what was once a joyful existence and perverted it to a punishment that only returning to God through a Savior could relieve.